16 December 2012

Infidelity — A Grave Mistake

Like many people, I wondered whether leaders should or needed to have resigned their office after their extramarital affairs were exposed last month.

Isn't being faithful to an individual's wife a personal matter between the couple?

An individual should remain faithful to his wife.  Period.

In a monogamous society, an individual promises, whether expressly or implicitly, to be faithful to his wife for as long as they live.  If being faithful to his wife throughout their marriage is not a commitment that an individual is prepared to make, he should tell his wife before they exchange marriage vows.  If, however, both parties have committed to being faithful throughout their marriage, what makes him even think that his wife will allow him to renege on his promise?

An unfaithful individual can easily justify infidelity to himself, creating stories about why it is all right or even desirable (from his perspective) to behave that way.  But he is only deceiving himself because it is never all right.

An individual involved in an extramarital affair has divided loyalties between his wife and his extramarital partner.  It affects his relationship with his wife even if she never finds out about it.  It hurts his spouse and children grievously when they find out.  If only he had given pause to imagine the pain he would feel if his wife had cheated on him instead.  But unfaithful individuals seldom do.

Infidelity shows a lack of morals and ethics, a lack of self discipline, and a lack not just of common sense but of good sense.

Infidelity is dishonesty, a character defect.

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Note

This article was written using the male pronoun, but it applies equally to wives who are engaged in extramarital affairs.

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